Happy Bday Papa…

Today is my Dad’s bday…Happy bday dear papa…:)

May you live a long and healthy life. May all your physical ailments go away as soon as possible. May you achieve and enjoy the good health you have been fighting for for so long now…I wish you a very peaceful and fulfilling post retirement time…cheers..


A song after long…

After a very long time today i spent almost an hour dancing- in front of K, to this song.

I simply simply loved it. Manna Dey was an awesome singer. May his soul rest in peace. I wish all these talented singer live this long. How amazing it would have been if we had Rafi, Mukesh, Kishore Kumar, Hemant Kumar and the likes also around for so long….


Bombay Dreams and Mumbai Blues…..

I come from a small town in UP and have spent the first 18 years of my life there. Most of our relatives stay in another town (now a state capital) which is again not very far from my place and remaining few are spread across cities/ states…but then these are very few. When i was a kid, trips to places like Delhi were rare. There was no need per se. I guess till I was in school, i would have visited Delhi hardly 4-5 times, may be for a wedding etc. Those were the days when CNG was not in picture and Delhi was in a bad state.

Apart from Delhi i had never been to any other metro till I was 14. However, there was this one big city I was in love with- Mumbai-erstwhile Bombay. I had a crush on Bombay. I was crazy about the place, the same way i had a crush on Rahul Dravid later in my life! A major part of this can be attributed to the fact that i was am a big Bollywood buff, and Bombay meant Bollywood for me for a long time till I joined MBA and the corporate connection came into picture.  I loved everything i had heard/ seen of the city (in TV/ films), the coconut trees, the beaches, the fancy sounding names of suburbs (Bandra, Colaba, Napean Sea Road, Khar, Vile Parle…they use to sound so fancy then..:)) and roads (remember the song..Kabhi Carter road, Kabhi Meera road…:D), the black yellow taxis, the names of hospitals (Breach Candy- isn’t it a very sexy name for a hospital)…basically as i said above i had a major crush on this city.  Then in Dec 1994, i got a chance to visit the city for the first time. My dad had taken LTC and the five of us went to Goa and Mumbai. While i liked Goa, but it was while sitting in the Delhi bound train leaving from VT (if i remember correctly) that I had tears in my eyes as the train was crossing the suburban stations of Dadar etc. I was sad that i had to leave the city of my dreams and head back our boring old town and the life.  We stayed their with our relatives and went to all tourist places of the city. I still remember the craze of Essel World, the trip to Hanging Gardens, the first time I saw sea while going to Mahalaxmi Temple, the first time i saw Gateway of India…oh..that was some experience, a dream come true for me. Aall the time sitting in the car, my eyes use to be constantly looking outside the window as i did not want to miss even a single site of my beloved city. In nutshell,  my love for the place grew ten times after visiting it once.

This love continued for the years to come. I was always in awe of the city. Then i wrote my entrance exams for various Engg colleges including IIT.  The brochure which came along with form had picture of all the IITs on one page. That was the time i was studying like crazy to get into any of these prestigious institutions and Bombay was my choice. I had decided that if i manage to crack this test, Bombay is the one which i would chose no matter which branch i get. Yes, that was my extent of longing- ness for the city. Anyway, IIT happened and i did not qualify. However, my love for the city was still intact.

Later on, after 4 years, i did get through IIT, but in a different course though- for my PG and I joined one, obviously not IIT B. In 2005, i again got a chance to go to the city as my sister was working their, and a friend an I decided to go to Bombay for Diwali.  I was excited to go to the city, but as I landed in the city I realized that my “bachpan ka pyaar”was not so strong any more. I still liked the city, but I was slightly over my childhood crush..:) This time obviously the places we visited were different…we spent a lot of time on Marine Drive, indulged in roadside shopping at Fashion Street and Link Road Bandra. Ate at some nice places….enjoyed the vada pao..and came back to IIT Madras…:) I did long for the city this time as well, but for different reasons altogether. We were missing the liveliness of Mumbai! Chennai was depressing for a few days after that until we got busy with the campus life again…

Anyway, in Dec 2006, we got placed. The company I got placed with said that our placement location would be shared later and it could be either Mumbai or Bangalore. Ha!! That was the first time I got a reality check, and for good…:) While all my life I had been wanting to get a chance to stay in/ go to Bombay, this time I wished otherwise. I had actually grown up, and the harsh realities of life had dawned on me. I just did not want to end up in Mumbai in a pigeon hole size flat, nor did i wish to travel to work in a local. And added to that the high living cost of Mumbai….Not that i was particularly a big fan of Bangalore at that time (later i started liking the city a lot during my three years stay there) but I was not up for a life in Mumbai. The very thought of sandwiched between people in a local in the hot humid climate of Mumbai and returning home to a cage size apartment was enough to scare me. (Actually that is all i would have been able to afford with my kind of salary at that time and moreover in general Mumbai is not known for space). As fate would have it…i got Bangalore as my location.

I stayed in Bangalore thereafter, and visited Mumbai quite a few number of times for work after that. Some of these trips were even a month long. That is when i realized the difference between my dreams and reality. Though, I use to stay in company guest house and was driven around the city in a chauffeur driven car…my love for the city had almost vanished.  I found life in Mumbai way too fast for me. The crowded locals, the small apartments, the crazy distances, the narrow roads (this I say in comparison o NCR) …the awful traffic…I guess the Delhi metro had spoiled us by then…overall, i found the living conditions a bit too gloomy in Mumbai. The sea of people one evening at Dadar station was so overwhelming that it left me wondering…..the city of my dreams was so different in reality.

Actually, as i said above, I had a crush on Bombay. And crushes are mostly misleading….you see what you want to see… Bombay use to amuse the younger me….it was like a distant land which was far from my reaches and hence very attractive, so i fell in love with it. When reality struck the grown up me, the attraction for Bombay died along with many other imaginary worlds and dreams i had created for myself in my teen years; the grown up me saw the realities of living in Mumbai and the Bombay dreams turned into Mumbai blues for me..:)

Every city has its plus and minuses, and my experience says that in the due course of time a city grows on you. Its very difficult to not like a place after staying there for a considerable period of time. It has happened to me twice. However, still,  though Mumbai is the land of opportunities but today, given a chance, i would any day choose a Bangalore or a Chennai over Mumbai…:)

Here is my favorite song for the city..:)

With a baby in picture…

……how the small things in life become such a luxury!!

Just few minutes ago, i was sitting in front of my laptop doing some regular online banking stuff and K was with the maid in the balcony. I just opened a a blog link from my blogroll and started reading a fresh post and before i could realize, I was lost reading some related posts for a good ten minutes!!. I was totally engrossed, when i suddenly realized that there was no sound coming from the balcony and rushed towards it. K was peacefully sitting in her pram and maid was playing with her. I thought of going back to my machine and continue reading stuff, but did not want to leave K with maid and started playing with her instead.

I realized that when you have a small baby to take care of, even a small thing like getting to spend 15 minutes at a stretch doing your favorite stuff like reading a blog/ writing becomes a total luxury. I had heard these things from others, and now when i am finally experiencing it, i can only agree with them more. Sometimes, i so feel like taking some time off from being the primary caregiver that I am, and spend time doing stuff which i use to do pre- K days. Though, this weekend i did get sometime sans K as on Sat i spent close to three hours are the doctor;s to get my back examined and then an hour long physiotherapy session. And yesterday, when K was asleep in the evening, i headed to a mall to procure few kurtas for myself as all my old clothes evade the new me – who is 10 kgs overweight!! However, the moment i stepped back in the house, i was greeted by a -about to explode any moment K- being pacified by Husband, and such was the business after that, that i could not even open the shopping bags for almost 2 hours after my return.

I so yearn for a free Saturday, when i just lie down in my bed, reading some great book, with no maids to give instructions to, no courier vaala, no chai requests from husband, and K at my mum’s place, where i know that she is happy and safe. Just me and no one else around!! Ah- it sounds a dream right now!!

Yesterday when i entered a mall, I was greeted by this faint smell of coffee and it reminded of my  time spent in Bangalore. On weekends i use to go to this Crossword located near hundred feet road, and sit their for hours all together reading my favorite book  and sipping coffee. Aha- that was pure bliss!

K is sleeping right now. She slept in her pram when i was strolling with her in the balcony. I was so scared that she would wake up- i did not even transfer her from her pram to her crib. She is sleeping in a sitting position right now. I know this is cruel..:D…but i cannot help…:)


K’s updates and some more

There are many things floating in my head which i wanted to jot down here, but none is surfacing right now, when i have finally managed to find some time after almost 3 weeks. So i will just bullet the highlights from the gone weeks to keep the posts going…:)

1. First thing first…i got these pretty pink crib bumpers and sheet for K.

IMG-20131011-WA0010decorating babies’nursery is so much fun…:) the bumper protects her head from banging against the crib fence. I ordered it from babyoye yesterday night and it was delivered today morning.  Great service.

I wanted to click a better picture, but for that i will have to wait till tomorrow as K is sleeping in the crib right now; and i cannot wait till tomorrow to finish this post!! Overall, i am very happy with this pinkness of the crib..:)

2. Last week was a terrible one at our household from health perspective. Husband fell sick with viral and was on leave for close to 5 days and K too got stomach infection!! To add to this my maid caught viral and went on two days leave!! There is nothing worse than a sick baby..:( K wanted to cling to me ALL the time…the moment i disappeared from her sight…she would just start howling…and there is nothing worse than a child crying…:(  Since husband was also unwell; i could not seek his help in any work and all the household and external work fell on my already aching shoulders…Thankfully things are better now. touch wood!

3. K is now ganju K..:D yes, I got her mundan done yesterday. She had these lovely curly hair (or semi curly i must say), but they had become too long for the little baby and more so for her mommy to manage. So i decided to chomp them off completely and got this job finished during these auspicious Navratri days. She looks cuter than i had expected. I was actually expecting a complete disaster. However, her new look is quite cute…:) Also, i plan to buy her a anaarkali for this diwali. I am not very sure how her ganju style go with a traditional dress…but i am all set to experiment. Afterall, i have only 3-4 more years left to exercise my choice on my baby before she sharts choosing her own clothes and accessories!!

4. Phew!! the above part was written on 11th Oct, and i could not finish it that day.  We had a good weekend with family at Husband’s cousin’s place. K was super thrilled and excited the whole time as she was loving being surrounded by so many people. That ways i guess i am lucky. She is not a cranky child. She enjoys having people around and keeps displaying her toothless smile all the time.

5. On the milestone front- she has finally started moving forwards!! She is in her 7th month now and on 5th Oct, she moved forward towards her milk bottle on her own. What a delight it was to see that…:) I was actually very happy, because it was after long …almost after 1.5- 2 months that she showed any major physical development. Now she is a pro at it and rushes towards anything she likes, like light!!

She has also started to balance herself while sitting for a few seconds. I think in another month or so she should start sitting on her own. That would be a real development. Also, my little baby has started saying ma-ma-ma-ma…:) This is her distress call. Whenever she is in trouble…like wanting to sleep, wanting to be held etc…she starts her ma-ma-ma-ma…its such a delight to hear that..:)

She has also started saying pa-pa-pa-pa…this she does randomly…whenever she wants…:) I was wondering that she does not know the meaning of these words/ blabber right now. So how come the first legible sound they make is mama and papa. Then i tried to read the tongue movement and noticed that it would be same for other words also, like..bha-bha…ba-ba..etc….however she or for that matter other kids also say ma and pa as their first so called words…this is amazing…:)

6. She was unwell in the first week of this month and wanted to have me around all the time. Since then, she has started craving for my presence most of the time. She gives a huge smile whenever i appear after few minutes from other room etc…if she is crying ..sometimes all she wants is to sit in my lap and she will be all happy and satisfied. basically i get a feeling that she is fascinated by me.,….:) I am the center of her universe right now. And honestly..it feels great. Great as in GREAT!!! Never ever in my life have i felt to needed and so important. I feel like queen mommy sometimes…:D I feel overwhelmed…i know it will not last forever, but I am enjoying it to the fullest till it lasts. Now i understand the feelings behind the long long posts mommy blogger dedicated to their babies..:) Its really an amazing experience being a  mother..:)

7. We have decided to change K’s name. Actually, in our family the naming ceremony is on the tenth day of birth. Husband and i were not able to zero in one a name till then. Actually, like many other things we were vetoing each others suggestions all the time about names and hence had no name on her naamkaran day. My FIL suggested a nice but very old fashioned name which husband liked and i guess i decided to like. From then on, whenever we were asked her name, it was invariably followed by various forms of the folloiwng -” Why have you named her this??””..sometimes politely, sometimes outright rude, sometimes confused, depending on our closeness with the said people and their inherent attitude.

Anyway, we are not the ones who would get deterred by all this, but what we realize was that none of us, that is husband and I would call her by that name.  I was calling her “chunnu”all the time and he – gappu, bundle, gutki..depending on his mood.  After some discussion we realized that basically, even we both are not very happy with this name, hence still time that we change it.  Therefore, we went back to the basics, and are planning to name her from among the following- Anahita, Abhisarika or Anasuya. The last being my first choice before even she was born (It means the one who is not jealous; also the name of wife of sage Atri). However, I will still call her K on this blog, in memory of her much controversial name…:D

That’s from my end for..:) Cheers…