Socialising the Mon-Chandler way!

Our social life in Gurgaon sucks. Sucks as in SUCKS big time. When we moved here last year; husband’s best friend from school was staying close by. The guy had a pretty decent entertainment value and we use to meet almost every weekend. In Aug last year, barely 3 months of us moving to Ggn, the couple moved to UK. So we were left with only two friends -one mine and one his in ggn. Given the very low entertainment quotient of my friend and supreme weirdness of his; we practically have only his relatives to socialise with, who stay in Noida and the likes. And given the uncool relatives my dear husband has, we choose to go there only when the situation is unavoidable, or only when it becomes like….”Bhai shaadi ke baad to beta badal gaya..”…

However, this December another of husband’s friend moved to NCR and took up a place in Dwarka. So Dwarka being a closer locality, i felt great..that now at least we would have some social life..(yes we are so a Monica Chandler couple that ways…nobody wants to socialise with us..sob!!)…Given the fact that his parents also moved with him pretty soon, that avenue also kinda got closed for us…Though we did meet up a couple of times..but no significant change in the status!!

Today however, he called in the morning saying that he would be coming to Ggn in the evening, so we can meet. I was totally joyous. Since the guys is really funny, i was really happy that we would have decent Sat evening. To give a background- we that is Husband and me stay in this house and our respective sisters also stay with us. Now no matter how much i like mine and he his; the arrangement is not in the best inetersts of our family (that is the two of us). More on that later. And since its been more thna on eyear that we have been married, and we are really not the “bas tum ho to aur kya chahiye” types….any friends visitors with a decent entertainment value are more than welcome anytime..:)

So the movie plan for the evening was cancelled, as i did not want to exploit both my entertainment options together!!

The maid was asked to leave without cooking dinner as we planned to order from outside. The ghar was re-cleaned and most importantly the spirits were high, that there would be some good laughing etc….until, husband broke the news at around 5:30 PM..L is not coming; he is somewhere in Rajouri, in some pub down with three beers, and cannot make it today!!!

Man, sigh!! We ordered from dominos, had a fight over some silly thing, watched Little Champs on TV and were done for the day….But i really wish to have some people around to hang out with. It gets really boring all akele akele all the time….Does it happen with you guys also, or is it only us who need some added entertainment dozes frequently??

PS: For those who are not watching Little Champs on Zee TV. Please do so. Adnan Sami is a judge and should i say he is just so so cute and charming!! I have a mild crush on him already..:)


Guests and washroom!!

How does it feel when you spend a good one hour every weekend to clean your bathroom, scrub it, sani-fresh it, wipe it and then also spend some good 2 minutes (or sometimes more) to just admire the fruits of your hard work and the only week when you are not well and the house is more or less in a mess, husband’s mamiji (known to be the most sugar-coated khadoos female of the family) and mamaji come over almost unannounced..:O..:(..:O

Though i i had heard it many times, but when first time MIL visited us after marriage for the first time last year, one thing (among innumerable others) she very sternly pointed out was that the washroom and kitchen should be two places which should be kept absolutely clean as they reflect how efficient and organized the lady of the house it…Agreed. Washroom and kitchen must be kept clean at all times. Not that before that my kitchen or bathroom were a mess, but i started paying some special attention to the bathroom after that and specially the wash basin and the commode saw a lot of  blue in form of harpic and sanifresh. 

As luck would have it, today morning when mamiji came; the washroom was definitely not in its most presentable form..:(…there were clothes on our bed, as yours truly had just got up and the bed was not yet made…and i was in no mood to tell the guests that the lady of the family that is their bahu that is moi is keeping a bad back since last 10-15 days now…:(..I hate such situations…..i actually work so hard to keep the washroom cleanest and saafest…and the only time when guests come to visit…its not even half as clean..:(


New theme!

For how many people is it important to have the layout of the blog correct before actually start writing something. For me, it is. I created this new blog, and since yesterday have been going through all the themes WP has to offer. I just cannot start writing, till the time the layout, colors and writing space in the theme is as per my linking. I like themes which are wider, which provide more writing space, which have a very neat font which appeals to the eyes. After previewing all the available 123 themes on WP at least thrice, i have zeroed down on this for the time being. :D,  yes i might change this the moment i find something better…:)

I am working from home these days, and technically should be working right now as per the office hours. I am keeping a very bad back these days, and was supposed to meet the ortho today, but now plan to go tomorrow; reason-sheer laziness!!

I somehow cannot find the tab used for justifying the text in my writer, is there something wrong or i need to install some new buttons?? .Yes..i found it now, somehow unjustified text annoys me….

And that reminds me, I have to take bath before husband is home, as he plans to go to the temple today, as he (yes he and not We..:O,  i guess i need to do a review of my marriage, he has still not graduated to Us..x-( ) is debt free after long, and he had mango-ed this mannat that he’ll go to the temple once this happens..:)

Bbyes blog..:)


the title and me!

Why this title??

Like any  most other girls, i am fond of clothes and shoes. But i have a particular liking towards skirts; in ALL colors and shapes..:) Though i do not claim to be owner of many of them; they still form a good percentage of my wardrobe. Be it the frilly flowing party wears, or the short ones with a lot of gather or the formal pencil skirts; i love them all!! I find skirts one of the most comfortable outfits we have. And the second women wear which i find very interesting is a dupatta. I have a very strong liking towards dupattas too, i love the way a beautiful well chosen dupatta can actually add a lot of weight to an otherwise plain jane salwar kameez. I have a good collection of dupattas and i am yet to find a teaming salwar kameez for them…i love the heavy embroidered phulkari dupattas, the Lucknow style chicken dupattas..even the Fab India cotton and silk ones (which i find overly priced though!!)….

And so the name of this blog….this would be the ME uncut; my thoughts uninhibited and my desires straight from the heart..:)

Life these days

On the up side, i am expecting a job offer this week, not sure how things would turn out, but as of now things look good. I have been looking for a chnage for past 2+ years now; very actively since past one year. If everything goes well; this would be a real good thing happening at the professional front after a real long time.

On the flip side, things are getting worse at the personal end. My dear sister, whoch is almost 27, changed job in Feb this year. She is a smart good looking female and was working in a BPO kind of set up till now. Everything was ok except for the job timings, and when it started taking a toll on her health, she decided to chnage and took up this less paying job, where she is expected to work as a BD executive. We all were happy for her, as she had finally found some direction in her career. However, happiness was quite shortlived as within 20 days of joining she declared (to me) that she is very fond of this guy at work, who is also from our community (but a lower caste) and blah blah. Blah Blah..because, i thought that this is just a passing thing and she is not serious about it. I would like to mention here, that personally i do not believe in caste and creed when it comes to marriage, but unfortunately my father does. He is someone from a very orthodox background when it comes to marriage of his daughters. In March, sister dear went home and declared to parents, that he is the guy she intends to marry!!

No amount of convincing would affect her decision, as i had  a primary concern that the decision had been taken within a month of meeting a guy in office and i am not very sure if the concepot of marriage is very clear in her mind. Father has the caste concern and knowing him and having multiple discusions with him i am convinced that it is not possible to buy him into this.  Sister stays with me, she is hell bent to marry this guy. Father, does not keep a good health, he has suffered depression in past, and is definitely not keeping well these days. Mum is the one who suffers because of all this as dad is very difficult to handle and would not act very mature when it comes to understanding that mum can have different views than his.

I love my dad, i know how much he loves the three of us, and the sacrifices he has made for us. (Would write a separate post on why i am specifying on this. I know all parents love their children and sacrifice for them). More than that mum has not had a vaery easy life. Now at 53, after having her elder daughter married off, when she was looking for a happier old age, sister has suddenly started this stirr in the family where all she is worried about is her well being. She hardly calls my parents these days, and behaves as if they are her biggest enemies, who do not want her to be happy.

I am all for love marriages; but shouldn’t one consider the well being of all stakeholders in such a major decision of life.  These days it is difficult to believe that this is the same sister, who was always so concerned about mum dad.

Overall, one thing i realize, the older you become, life seizes to be easy.


The first post…

This is my first post on this new blog of mine. I already have a blog which i love dearly and try to be as regular as possible. However, offlate i realised that i wanted to have an anonymous space. I want to rant out some stuff and feelings without the fear of getting judged by those who know me well and would tend to read this, without straining my grey cells to find an apt title for my posts so that it looks a funny read, without trying hard to appear humorous, and most importantly without having to think before i write anything….

While maintaining two blogs is not very easy with a full time job and a husband and household to look after, but i have this feeling, that this is going to be the more active of the two places from now on..:)

Welcome to the world of skirts and dupattas, a sneak peek into the life of a 30 years professional, living in Gurgaon with the most confused head around..:)